So, your best friend is getting married, YAY! & she has asked you to be her Maid of Honour… But what exactly does that mean? What do you have to do leading up to the wedding and on the wedding day? We’ve listed all the main (& traditional) maid of honour duties:
Note: Good organisational and communication skills are a plus, but a positive attitude is a must!
Help shop for dresses (the bride’s and the bridesmaids’).
Lend an ear. Whether it’s about the planning, the marriage, the MOH should assure the bride that she has someone with whom she can share her thoughts. Even if she seems to dwell on the same subjects repeatedly, you keep listening.
Host or cohost a bridal shower/hen party for the bride.
Keep a record of gifts. The MOH should jot down what presents the bride receives at her shower, and who gave them to her so the couple can send out thank you notes.
Be the bride’s right-hand woman. Give her help where needed: Address the invitations, write out the place cards, weigh in on the cake, assemble the reception play list. . . .
Act as the point person. No wedding planner? No problem. The MOH should give out her phone number to all of the key vendors and family members in advance so she can help answer any questions for the bride that morning.
Help her get dressed. Getting a nervous woman into possibly the most expensive, elaborate dress she’ll wear in her life is no small task. You’ll want to be certain everything is laid out in advance, from her bra to her shoes to jewelry, so there’s no last minute scrambling to find ther something blue or an extra pair of tights!
Lead the bridesmaid troupe. It’s the MOH job to direct the other maids through their duties.
Everyone will have questions about the wedding day — when and where are photos taking place? What time is the cake-cutting? What’s the rain plan? It will help the bride immensely if she isn’t the only one with the answers.
Hold the groom’s ring during the ceremony.
Arrange the bride’s train and veil before the ceremony begins and just after she arrives at the altar.
Hold the bride’s bouquet while the couple exchange vows.
Play hostess along with the other bridesmaids at frequent points during the reception: show guests where to sit, direct them to the loos, tell them to where to put presents, invite them to sign the guest book, etc.
Make sure the bride takes a moment to eat something — refresh her drink, get her a plate of food from the buffet table, or make sure a plate of food is kept warm for her so she can steal a bite at a quiet moment.
Toast the Happy Couple. It can be short and sweet, funny, or heartfelt. Just be yourself and say something sweet to the bride and groom!